Online, they looked perfect. They had everything you were looking for. You asked to connect, they said yes. Before you knew it, you were emailing back and forth every day. The phone conversation went great so you decided to meet. Wow! Things are going awesome; they were as good in person as they were online and on the phone. The conversation was great, you had the same goals and interests; it was perfect! You definitely saw this going long term.
You wait the standard 48 hours before you call again but they didn’t answer. No big deal, so you left a message. You leave messages and send emails – they never respond. Turns out, you were a bit more interested in them they are in you. Sounds like a bad date? No, it is the case of the missing date. Ever notice how recruiting and interviewing is like dating? Read below:
Dating Profile = Job Board Job Posting
On most dating sites, people put their picture, their likes, what they are looking for in a mate and enough of a personal description to pique your interest. Likewise, your job posting should have enough information to pique their interest without scaring them away. Don’t use clichés! Make it unique but not weird, clever but clear. Make it realistic and describe the truly important parts of the job. And please get to the point.
Email Conversations Alone are not Enough
You can get great info via email but you are only reading what was selected for you to read. It is not a good indicator of whether or not you will click in real life. When you talk to someone, they are not using grammar check, looking up good responses or getting help from their best friend (we hope!). You can get more of an organic response to further questions you may have. You have to talk to get to know your candidates!
Like having your first conversation with a potential date, you need to listen to what the candidate is saying and not saying. You wouldn't just see if they match your keywords selecting them as a potential mate. Spend at least 30 minutes on the phone with potential candidates and listen more than you talk.
Don’t get catfished. Before you send a candidate to a client or a decision maker meet them or at least do a video chat. Make sure the candidate is not doing the old “Bait and Switch.” If you feel creepy when talking to them or it doesn’t seem like the same person, hang up – don’t waste time! If you think you like them, keep listening! Pay attention to their speaking tone and style. Most importantly, don’t ignore the red flags! Still interested? It is time to meet.
Meeting in Person
Like a first date, interviewing is the first impression. Be on time. There is nothing fashionable about being late. Be polite but honest. Turn off your cell phone. Don’t expect perfection right off the bat. Remember, it is not about just emotional feelings. Sure you like them, but are they right for the job? Don’t react right away. Let the interview sink in a bit. Let the candidate know what your initial reaction is and let them know you will follow up. If you feel 100% that it is going to work, let them know but still plan on following up.
Post Dating Rules
Determined what you liked or did not like about your first “date.” Assess your level of interest. Remember that people may not always be their natural selves during first dates, so you may want to give someone that you're not quite sure about a second chance. Don’t ignore the red flags! Signs of a good first interview/ date are:
- Good Eye Contact
- Ease of Conversation
- Knowledge of your Company and the Position they are Being Interviewed for
- Appropriate Clothing
- Honest Answers
Some red flags include:
- Coming Across as an Ego-maniac
- Complaining on Past “Relationships” or Past Jobs
- Extended Uncomfortable Silences
- Checking the time
- Closed Body Language
Keep “Dating” (Interviewing)
If you determine that the candidate is not going to be a fit there is no need to ask for a second date. It is important to let the candidate know that you are not interested so as to avoid unwanted stalking.
If it went well and you want to see the other person again, then you may want to contact the other person. Call them as within a minimum of 72 hours. Make sure to leave a message and a follow up email expressing true interest. Ask for their feedback, questions and concerns as well. Remember, just your meeting went well doesn’t mean that they are fully ready to commit. So keep “dating” until the right person comes along. I promise they will!
It may take a bit longer, but take the steps to get to know the person you are hooking up with. You can save time, effort as well as embarrassment and humiliation!
About the author:
Jackye Clayton is recognized as a people expert who puts the Human in Human Resources. An international trainer, she has traveled worldwide sharing her unique gifts in sourcing, recruiting and coaching. She offers various dynamic presentations on numerous topics related to leadership development, inclusionary culture development, team building and more. Her in-depth experience in working with top Fortune and Inc 500 clients and their employees has allowed her to create customized programs to coach, train and recruit top talent and inspire others to greatness. Email Jackye at email@example.com, follow her on Twitter, or connect with her on Linkedin.